My complete name is Veturi Bhaskara Narasimha Sarma and I hate it. It is
not because it is too long or not modern enough, but it’s just that my name
does not easily fit into the first name, last name thing that the whole world
is used to. The way Sarma is pronounced is also quite different to what it was
written. In Telugu, we have a third Sa(శ) along with the
regular sa and sha, which makes it perfectly logical to spell my name as Sarma(శర్మ). I never felt comfortable having the h added to my name, but the only
ways in which I use my name as I please was through facebook, my blog url and
my twitter handle.
Living in my home town, I never faced many problems with people getting
confused by my name. I was always called Sarma in my home, at school and by my friends.
I did not have any idea at that time that in Northern parts of India Sharma was
a surname. Whenever I told my colleagues that my name is Sarma, they always
asked what my first name is. It was difficult for me to explain them that from
where I come, we don’t have these first, second and third names. Veturi is my
surname, and as with most surnames from our region, it may be the name of the
village that my forefathers have hailed from. But they never listened and fixed
my name to be Narasimha. I was never called Narasimha by anyone till that day
and suddenly everyone was addressing me and even the mails started with
Narasimha. It irked me.
During my tenth class I first got my official name, one that haunts me
till today. When I first saw my surname being misspelt as Veluri instead of
Veturi in my hall ticket, I thought it was not a big deal. The name in the SSC
hall ticket would stick to you for your lifetime unless you want to go through
the hassles of changing name officially. Had I raised the concern over the
spelling mistake, I would have my real surname, but as of now the surname I
have, officially, is not mine.
Working for 5 years in my first company, I got slowly used to people
calling me Narasimha, as irksome as it was. I relocated to Hyderabad in 2013
and my new company had a weird naming policy. They looked at my passport and
felt that Bhaskara was my first name and Veluri was my last name. I told them
that I was never called Bhaskar and pleaded them to have my name at least as
Narasimha. But the HR girl was having none of it and I had to deal with a new
name, yet again. As of today, my friends and family members call me Sarma,
colleagues from my previous company call me Narasimha and I’m Bhaskar at my
present work place.
So I’m not clearly fond of my name and have come to a stage that it
doesn’t matter what people call me anymore. After all as the bard says, What’s
In A Name.
This post is written for IndiSpire topic What's In A Name.
That is so annoying! Why wouldn't anybody just listen to you, Sarma?
ReplyDeleteOmg when I read veluri I actually read volturi in my head! Sorry sorry!
ReplyDeletehaha.. nice one! but what's your first name and what's last name? :-P
ReplyDeleteVBNA, I have the same question, what's your first name and last name :P
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Good wishes,
Nandhini
Your name is the best since you got a lot to write about it ;) Nice post :)
ReplyDeleteInterestingly, this is a common phenomenon in many cross cultural interactions applicable to myriads of other similar experiences faced at institutions or instances where one needs to present oneself to fit into the already established grooves. This is in fact a problem that arises from Congnitive Imperialism from which we are still not free. In a way, rewriting of knowledge systems and establishment of 'modern' structures to be binding are real life issues we are suffering from. I think we need to free ourselves, among our diversity, to be open to specificities, where one chooses how one is called. Telugus for instance should not be asked to move their house name to the last or be asked to drop off their middle names or last names simply because they are neither. It is a unique way of appellation in its own right.
ReplyDeleteHey I can totally identify with this. In my case I have just one name and an initial and people just give me a surname as they see fit. They just take my fathers name and as it has three parts they use whatever part they like. Very Very irksome it is.
ReplyDeleteHeyyyyyy got u Mr.VBNA... My name is PBKM... can u guess me ??
ReplyDeletePotham Bhaskara Krishna Mohan
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